Traditional wedding celebrations are about two African families coming together and celebrating the union of their children. This celebration is accompanied by cultural and traditional practices that are embraced and celebrated by both families. Leading up to the traditional wedding is the negotiation process of Lobola.
Lobola ‘’It is a token of appreciation from the groom’s family to the bride’s family. In the olden days the groom’s family would give the bride’s family anything that was of value to them such as a spear or hoe,’’ - cultural expert Gugu Mkhize explains.
Different cultures across South Africa believed that animals are also spiritual beings. The gifting of a cow to the bride’s family signified the spiritual connection forming between the two families. It was not seen as an economic way of benefiting, but rather a spiritual acknowledgement and affirming of two families coming together. Historically the Nguni tribe placed importance on the practice as they saw it as a continuation of their lineage. Sadly, colonialism has played a significant role in changing the way lobola was practiced, which in turn has influenced its current perception and practice.
The language and focus around lobola today has evolved. People now focus on asking ‘’what is the lobola price?’’ as opposed to ‘’what can I offer as a token of my appreciation?’’
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